Getting a divorce is very similar to getting married in one respect: It costs money. If you’re contemplating a split, you have to think about the financial issues involved – and that’s much more than just thinking about dividing up the savings account and splitting...
Divorce
How to tell your children about your divorce
Children are extremely resilient but also fragile. Because of this, you may be concerned about how they will react to the news of your divorce. This is a delicate and personal matter you must handle carefully. If you don’t take the right steps to tell your children...
Child support from a parent who has fluctuating income
When you and your spouse divorced, you expected your child’s other parent to pay child support and it was even granted by a judge. The only problem, however, is that your ex-spouse has a fluctuating income. Maybe it’s because they work off of commissions, they’ve...
Children, divorce and magical thinking
If you have children, you know that they can have an incredible sense of imagination. They will make up games to play or talk about things that never happened, and you can tell that they really feel that those things are real. They’re able to move into this imaginary...
Don’t let your child’s campus tours turn into a battleground
Maybe you got divorced when your child was very young, or perhaps you’ll be taking that step as they near the end of high school. Either way, when the time comes to choosing a college, co-parents can find themselves competing to be part of the process. Choosing a...
Are the odds of a divorce something you can inherit?
It has long been said that individuals whose parents got divorced when they were young were more likely to get divorced themselves. The divorce odds are simply higher for these individuals when they grow up and get married because they already saw divorce as an...
The child is not biologically mine. Can I stop paying support?
This can be an extremely tricky subject to handle. When a married couple gets a child, it is presumed that the husband is the child’s biological father and his name is included on the birth certificate. Consequently, he becomes the child’s legal father. And this is...
What to do about the house as you handle your divorce
Living in Sonoma County, one of the things you love about where you live now is that your home is affordable, and you and your spouse are able to live comfortably in the area. You know that you are going to need a decent income to keep up with the expenses you’ll have...
Why do academic scores decline during divorce?
When parents get divorced, studies have found that children’s academic scores tend to drop. Their test scores decline while their parents are going through the divorce itself. This effect can also last beyond the divorce, and there is an overall lower level of...
Can you treat retirement savings as separate in your divorce?
The closer to retirement age you are, the more important your retirement savings will be in your California divorce. When you picture your future, it may be your retirement years that you envision, and for some people, enjoying those years is the motivation for filing...