Going through a divorce is a challenging time. It’s one that’s usually filled with contention, which can make it difficult for the exes to get along. That’s not a huge deal when there aren’t children involved. When kids are part of the divorce, the parents will still have to work together sometimes.
There are many different parenting styles. Some parents who can get along might choose to co-parent. Others who don’t get along might opt for parallel parenting. There are a few things you should know about parallel parenting if you’re considering this option.
Communication is limited
The communication between parents is limited in parallel parenting. In many cases, the communication is limited to one form. This might be something like a monitored app where schedules can be shared and messages can be exchanged.
Each home has its own rules
Each home will have a set of rules that aren’t dependent on the other home’s rules. While this is a bit of an adjustment for children, they will quickly learn what’s what at each home.
Children may not feel stressed
Children whose parents have divorced will sometimes feel stressed because there are conflicts between the parents. Because of the nature of parallel parenting, conflicts aren’t likely to happen. The children can rest easier knowing that they have two loving homes that aren’t in a constant state of battle.
Ultimately, you have to make the decisions that are in your child’s best interests. The parenting style you and your ex choose plays a primary role in how the parenting plan is set up. Be sure you understand every point in that plan so you meet your responsibilities. In some cases, these plans have to be creative, so working with someone who’s handled matters similar to yours might be beneficial.