You and your spouse have been at odds for a while, and now that you’ve decided to get a divorce, neither of you are speaking to each other. This is a problem, because you want to go through this divorce as quickly and efficiently as possible to minimize the impact on your children.
The good news is that there are methods you can use to keep your divorce amicable. Here are three that you can use to open up those paths of communication and start on the path to resolving your issues.
- Think about timing when you want to talk
One of the first things to do is to remember that timing is everything. If you’re ready to talk to your spouse about the divorce, the best time is probably not when they’ve just gotten home from a long day at work. Try to save important conversations for when you’re both well-rested and have the time to sit down and hash things out.
- Don’t make immediate decisions and regret them later
Another thing you should do is wait before making important decisions. Although you may want to resolve your divorce quickly, it’s a good idea to take time to think over any agreements you think you’ve come to. Both of you should take at least 24 hours to review any resolution you come up with, so that you can think about potential negatives. If you don’t see any problems at that point, then you may be ready to sign.
- Make sure you keep your attorney in the loop to stop conflicts
Finally, make sure you do use your attorney’s experience if and when needed. If you’re having trouble getting your spouse to talk with you, your attorney may have some documents or paperwork that could help you bridge that gap in communication. There may be worksheets or simple techniques they have that will aid you with conversation. Of course, if your spouse simply will not respond, then your attorney can speak with theirs to try to move things forward.
These tips can help you keep your divorce amicable and encourage it to continue moving forward. If you need further assistance, you may want to consider speaking with a professional who is familiar with divorce, mediation and other methods of dispute resolution.