It’s no surprise that divorce can leave behind some bad feelings for you and your ex. There’s a reason your marriage didn’t work out, and sometimes people can get wrapped up in these bad feelings. But if you have kids, it’s important that you create a respectful working relationship with your ex spouse, so you can continue to be there for your children.
However, this can be difficult. Working with an ex is challenging and can be complex. Luckily, there are several ways you can start improving your relationship with your ex so you can give your kids a better experience.
Tips For Getting Along
While it may be challenging, you may have to make certain sacrifices for the sake of your kids in order to create a good relationship with your ex. A few things to consider when creating this new working relationship include:
- Let go of your past – while you may hold certain grudges or resent some of the things that came out of your divorce, it’s important to put these bad feelings behind you so you, your ex and your kids can move on.
- Collaborate – you may not want much to do with your ex, but in order to co-parent you must be willing to discuss issues and compromise when necessary for the sake of your kids.
- Be considerate – don’t try to make your kids choose favorites or bad-mouth your ex in front of them. It’s important that your kids see you working together peacefully. Both you and your spouse are a big part of your kids’ lives and they don’t want to see you fighting or criticizing one another.
- Create a system – shared custody can be complicated but creating a streamlined system for going back and forth can help you and your spouse reduce the stress and chaos of this process.
These are just a few ways you can make life for your family less stressful and more peaceful. Co-parenting after a divorce is not easy, but it’s important to do your best to make it work so your kids are negatively affected.